There's nothing like community-approved tips to get inspired and breathe new life into your sex routine.
Recently, our curiosity led us to discover what is really going on under the sheets of our readers. We wanted to know the best-kept secrets to fully enjoy a wand vibrator as a duo.
Why? Simply because we know that the pleasure is multiplied when we introduce a toy into the game for two. So we wanted to share these tips with you, techniques that have proven themselves, just to give you some ideas to explore new sensations.
Because let's admit it, we always like to know a little bit about what others are exploring under the sheets.
The responses we received were inspiring, humorous — and, above all, delightfully intriguing.
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⚠️ A little warning: reading these stories could awaken in you an irrepressible desire to please yourself. We prefer to warn you! |
The art of using a vibrator together
" Since I have a very sensitive clitoris, I apply the wand to the sides of the labia, adjusting the pressure towards the clitoris according to my arousal. Whether solo or with a partner, this method always has the same effect on me! "
— Pascale, 25 years old, non-binary bisexual person.
" With my partner, after our lovemaking, we like to get into doggy style position. While he caresses me with his fingers, I take care of myself with my toy. It's really face down on the mattress, buttocks raised as much as possible. Since we've been doing this, it's a real revolution for me, hahaha! "
— Anonymous, 26 years old, pansexual
" I slide the wand under my husband's testicles, wedged between my knees while I caress him. This allows me to keep my hands free to vary the sensations for him. The wand gently stimulates the scrotum while I touch him. Note: last time, we also added a silicone ring, which made the experience even more pleasant for him. "
— Rosa, 38 years old, straight woman
" My partner and I particularly enjoy it when I sit on the desk with my legs spread, while he remains standing. We then combine penetration and a vibrator, and the sensations are always incredible. "
— Anonymous, 20 years old, straight woman
" Face down on the mattress, doggy style, or lying on your back on the edge of the bed, legs resting on my shoulders while I stand...there are many options to intensify the pleasure. "
— Anonymous, 32 years old, straight male
" Between women, one sitting on top of the other, legs crossed in a scissors position, with the vibrator delicately positioned between them to intensify the pleasure. "
— Marie-Catherine, 18 years old, bisexual woman
" I particularly enjoy combining a toy like the Abracadabra with anal stimulation, by placing a dildo in the vagina after cunnilingus and gentle finger stimulation. The dildo is there to create a pleasant pressure between anal and clitoral stimulation, without any back-and-forth movement. "
— Anonymous, 31 years old, straight male
" I didn't use it often because it wasn't mine, but with a former partner, we used it sometimes to pleasure each other, sometimes by placing it between us to enjoy it simultaneously. Just thinking about it makes me remember how delicious it was... and I wonder why I still haven't bought one, haha! "
— Charlie, 26, lesbian woman
Why integrate a toy into your moments together?
We can give you a thousand and one reasons:
- Because 90% of people with vulvas achieve orgasm through external clitoral stimulation, and for many, penetration alone is not enough.
- Because there are sensations that the human body simply cannot provide — like vibrating.
- Because it helps to relieve the pressure to “perform” and to move away from the idea that you absolutely have to “please” your partner.
- Because it can pave the way for multiple orgasms.
- Because spicing up the routine (or simply choosing a toy together ) can revive and strengthen intimacy.
- Because it's simply pure pleasure.
And after all, why not!
Friendly reminder : Toys are there to accompany you in your search for pleasure. Incorporating them into your moments together has nothing to do with “performance” in bed, whether it’s yours or your partner’s — sex is not a competition! Rather, it’s an opportunity to discover unique sensations and renew the experience.
Of course, using toys together isn't for everyone, and that's perfectly OK. But if you feel like trying it and you're unsure about how to talk about it with your partner, or if you feel a bit uncomfortable bringing it up, don't worry, we're here to help! Talking about your desires between the sheets is essential, and we'll give you some tips on how to do it gently here .