Whether you're flying solo, partnered up (or more), engaging in penetration (anal, oral, or vaginal), or enjoying external caresses, lubricant is always a fantastic idea.
Some sexual practices can be done without lubricant, but for many, it's essential. Honestly, it's often more enjoyable with it. Even if you're naturally well-lubricated, adding a bit never hurts. As our mission is to promote positive sexuality, we dream of the day when a bottle of lubricant is as essential on your nightstand as your autumn-scented candle.
But with thousands of options available on the market, how do you find the perfect lubricant for you? Don't worry, we're here to guide you and help you find one that meets your needs.
What to consider when choosing your lubricant
Your allergies
Do you have any allergies? Be sure to check the ingredient list to avoid itching where you don't want it. We recommend always testing a small amount on the inside of your wrist before using it on your body, just to make sure everything is fine.
The use
The choice of your lubricant mainly depends on how you plan to use it. To guide you, here are some questions to ask yourself:
- Will you use it for penetration? If so, what type? (anal, vaginal?)
- Are you planning to use it with your toys?
- Do you want a lubrication that lasts a long time?
- Is it important for you that it cleans easily?
- Do you use latex condoms for protection?
The 4 main types of lubricants
Water based
Water-based lubricant is one of the most popular in the bedroom. It's an excellent starting point if you're not very familiar with it. Easy to find everywhere, it's perfect for keeping things simple.
Pros
Probably the most versatile option, water-based lubricant is perfect for all kinds of activities. Masturbation, play with others (or more), oral sex... anything goes. It cleans easily with water and doesn’t stain, allowing you to play wherever you want: on the living room rug, in your bed, or on the quartz countertop—without worry.
Plus, you can safely use it with your silicone toys and condoms, as this formula is gentle and safe for them.
Cons
It absorbs quickly, so unless it's a quickie, you'll need to reapply often. It also dissolves easily in water, making it not the best option for pool, spa, or shower play.
Quick note: some water-based lubricants contain glycerin, which can alter vaginal pH and increase the risk of vaginal infections, like vaginitis, in some people. We advise avoiding these products. Also, those with flavors or warming or cooling properties can cause irritation. If you have sensitive intimate areas, it is safer to choose unscented and glycerin-free lubes like this one.
Silicone based
If you want pleasure to last without interruption, silicone-based lubricant is the ideal option for you
Pros
The lubrication lasts much longer than water-based, making it an excellent option for people suffering from vaginal dryness. It’s also the number one choice for anal sex, where optimal lubrication is crucial for a pleasant experience and to avoid tears: the anus is delicate, after all. (To learn all about this practice, click here.) In short, it glides, it lasts, and it leaves you feeling soft and comfortable.
The fact that it doesn't dissolve easily in water also makes it the ideal choice for aquatic fun.
And finally, you can use it with latex condoms. Lubricated ✔️, protected ✔️, ready to enjoy without delay.
Cons
You can't use it with silicone toys as it can damage the toy's surface irreversibly.
Silicone-based lubricant can also leave stains. Keep that in mind before indulging on your walnut table or sumptuous velvet sofa.
Oil-based
You have the choice between many commercial formulas or a 100% natural alternative, like coconut oil (or any other vegetable oil) from your pantry. If you opt for the latter, keep the lubricant jar away from the kitchen, so you don't accidentally mix pleasure and cooking 😉
Pros
In terms of lubrication, it’s as effective as silicone-based lubricant: it glides wonderfully well and lasts a long time.
It’s a perfect option for when you want a sensual massage, and plus, it’s moisturizing!
For coconut oil, we love that it's completely natural and the convenience of being able to buy it in large quantities.
Cons
Avoid if you use latex condoms or dental dams: oil can weaken them and make them ineffective. Better not take the risk.
If you choose a commercial option, limit it to external contact. Oil-based lubricants can irritate vaginal walls. However, coconut oil is safe for internal use.
Oil has this unfortunate tendency to stain and be tough to clean. Imagine your luxurious silk or Egyptian cotton sheets, which cost you a small fortune, becoming delicately stained...
DIY Lubricant
If you love organic products, have a penchant for DIY, and your Pinterest is overflowing with recipes and crafts, homemade lubricant might just win you over. You'll find many recipes online, some simpler than others, but all within reach. Vegetable oils are a delightful option (as mentioned above), but there are also recipes using cornstarch or aloe vera.
Pros
You know exactly what's in it, a real advantage for people with sensitive skin (and interiors). Remember to always do a patch test before covering yourself with it—it’s a golden rule for all lubricants.
By choosing your recipe well, your lubricant can accompany you in your escapades, for sensual massages, and even for oral sex. It's a very versatile option!
Cons
Unless you're satisfied with a liter of olive oil, making a homemade lubricant requires more effort and preparation than buying one ready-made online or in-store.
And above all, if you choose a recipe with oil, remember this golden rule: oil + latex condoms = guaranteed disaster.
And what about saliva?
When you've exhausted the last drop of your lubricant or simply don't have access to it, you still have... saliva.
It's free, generally always available, and 100% natural. But between us, even though it works in a pinch, it doesn't compare with the effectiveness of the lubricants mentioned above.
A final word for you, if you own a vagina and your natural lubrication is often insufficient: this might indicate a physical or psychological issue. Don't hesitate to talk to your doctor or consult a sexologist if you think the problem's source isn't physical.