7 tips for using your sex toy to its full potential

You can't reinvent the wheel, but you can always find new ways to have fun with your sex toys. Find out how here.

So, you’ve got yourself a sex toy. Or maybe you’ve had one for a while, it’s become part of your routine, and it’s lost some of its initial magic. Kind of like that new, overly exciting game that now seems less appealing after you’ve completed all the levels. What to do now?

Get inspired by our tips and tricks to discover (or rediscover) your toy and unlock its full pleasure potential. 🗝️ 💎

Get to know your toy

First of all, take the time to discover your toy. Read the instruction manual (even if we know it's not very tempting). It will reveal all the subtleties of your toy.

Can you submerge it for a sensual bath? Does it have multiple intensity levels? Different vibration modes? Can it stand on its own on your walls or in your shower?

Explore the different features to get to know your new ally. Knowing all the possibilities available to you is the best way to fully enjoy your delicious toy whenever you want.

The instruction manual will also guide you to take care of your toy so that it lasts a long time. Each toy has its specificities, but in general, we advise you to clean it after each use (and even before, if you want to take even more precautions), to use it correctly and to store it carefully.

Sublime the moment

Even if it's just you and your toy, take some time for your pleasure. A quick session can be nice, but why not create an atmosphere that's conducive to desire? Dim the lights, light a few candles, put on a sensual playlist , or sit down in front of your favorite porn video . If you feel like it, you can even take the time to meditate and indulge in a tantra-inspired masturbation session. Reconnect with your body, explore its erotic potential, and savor every sensation. Stimulate all your senses and give yourself a real moment of pleasure. The sensations of your toy will be even more intense.

Rule of thumb: Lube is always a great idea. It’s a must for toys that are inserted into a body part (like the Cancun or the O-pium ) or penetrated (like the Vortex ). It’s also great for toys that stimulate external erogenous zones. Lube softens the sensations and makes them even more exciting — perfect if you have particularly sensitive nerve endings (hello, sensitive clits).

Make sure your lube is compatible with your toy. If your toy is silicone, avoid silicone-based lube. Silicone + silicone = damaged toy. 👎 The safest (and easiest) solution: a water-based lubricant like Eau La La

Explore other erogenous zones

Depending on the type of toy you have, you can use it on different parts of your body, not just the one it was designed for.

A vibrator like the Abracadabra , for example, isn't limited to tickling the clitoris. You can apply it to the perineum, the frenulum of the penis, under the testicles, or slide it over the labia majora. A suction clitoral stimulator can also be used in a variety of ways.

However, when exploring anal pleasure, make sure your toy is designed for this purpose or has a flared base. The rectum has a nasty tendency to suck things in, and a stuck toy can quickly require a trip to the hospital. To avoid turning an intimate moment into a medical embarrassment, always choose toys designed for anal pleasure.

Make yourself languish

There are times when you just need to release tension quickly and without any hassle. That’s perfectly normal. Toys are great for that, they make it easy. But slowing down every now and then can be incredibly rewarding. We’ve already suggested setting the mood for desire, now take the time to savor each moment. Indulge in some foreplay: start slowly, using your toy over your clothes if possible (this is a great way to soften the sensations if your genitals are particularly sensitive). Stimulate other areas of your body, like your nipples or inner thighs, before focusing on your main erogenous zones.

Once you're in the heat of the moment and approaching orgasm, try edging : slow down or stop completely to deny yourself the ultimate pleasure—for now. Once you're back in control, increase the pace again. Repeat this cycle several times before giving in to the final pleasure.

Why "torture" yourself like this? Because it can lead to an intense orgasm, or even multiple orgasms — a great reason to try, right? 😉

Play with it

There's a reason it's called a sex "toy." To get the most out of it, don't just set it up and let it do its magic: add your own personal touch. How? Here are a few suggestions:

• Try different angles
• Vary the pressure
• Move it from erogenous zone to erogenous zone
• Lay him on your bed and rub against him instead of holding him in your hands.
• Alternates between its different vibration modes or intensity levels
• Use it in an unexpected place (like your car or discreetly in the laundry room, or wear it in a public place if it can stay put)

Use it with a partner

Sex toys are not competitors, replacements, or signs of incompetence. They are accomplices in your quest for pleasure. They enrich these shared moments, they bring new and exciting sensations. It is the alchemy between the two of you that will make the experience unforgettable.

Using a toy with a partner is the perfect opportunity to try new positions, new practices and feel incredible sensations together (or with others). It's the ideal addition to break the sexual routine that sometimes sets in in the bedroom.

If the mere possibility of pleasure isn't enough to convince you, know that adding a sex toy to your romp can reduce the pressure to perform and lighten the burden of having to "please" your partner alone. Less stress opens the door to more pleasurable moments!

Combine the pleasures

Got multiple toys? Explore them one at a time, or combine them for multiple sensations. For example, tease your clitoris with a vibrator before moving on to vaginal penetration with a G-spot stimulator or dildo . Or, start with a butt plug before using a prostate stimulator (always start slowly for anal penetration — we talk about that here ). You can also wear nipple clamps while using a masturbator or vibrator .

Even with just one toy, your free hand can do wonders. Caress your breasts, the inside of your thighs or your neck. Stimulate your anus or vagina with your fingers, or touch your penis or clitoris.

In short, the possibilities are endless! Enjoy! 😘