11 suggestions to rediscover penis masturbation

Often left for solo sessions, penis masturbation can actually be quite rewarding when shared with a partner (or even more!). Discover (and try) our sensual suggestions—you might just find a new manual passion!

Penis masturbation. The ultimate intimate caress technique, yet it often fades away when a partner comes into play. Why? Because it’s rarely seen in porn videos and often overlooked in sexual scenarios? Because it’s supposedly less satisfying than other practices, like oral sex? To that last assumption, we say: definitely not!

Reclaim the pleasure of penis masturbation with your partner—having another way to make each other feel good never hurts.

Opens the door to communication

The key to successful penis masturbation (and many things in life): communication, of course! To know what pleases your partner, it’s best to ask.

In practice: Regularly check in with your partner to see if they like what you’re doing, if the pace is right, if they want more or less, etc. Dirty talk can be a great way to achieve this. Otherwise, pay attention to their body language. At the slightest sign of discomfort: stop and check if everything is okay—it can sometimes be hard to tell someone you’re not quite enjoying something. But asking opens the door for constructive feedback!

Put some lubricant on

Smooth stimulation of the penis not only varies sensations but also ensures gentler movements for this delicate area of the body.

In practice: Choose a lubricant according to your desires. Our favorite? Eau La La lubricant . Warm it gently in your hands before applying it to your partner’s shaft, or pour it directly for an exquisite thrill. Spread it everywhere, from the glans to the testicles, and even to the perineum if the mood strikes.

Put your multitasking skills to work

Amplify sensations by using both hands to masturbate the penis or stimulating other erogenous zones in parallel—yours or your partner’s.

In practice: Use both hands on their shaft, or dedicate one to caress the inside of their thighs, tease their nipples, gently pull their hair, grab a handful of buttocks, or even stimulate yourself.

Experiment with different movements

Just like clitoris, every penis has its own stimulation preferences. Varying your techniques not only helps prolong pleasure—and maybe even delay orgasm—but it's also a way to discover what pleases your partner best and even introduce them to new sensations.

In practice: Try the following techniques:

• Gently stroke the penis up and down with one hand. Use the other to stimulate the glans by drawing circles with your thumb.
• Slide your hands from the glans to the base of the penis, one after the other, gently.
• Without squeezing too hard, slide your hands up and down, rotating them in opposite directions.
• Place your hands in prayer, with your penis between your palms, and slide them slowly up and down.
• Place one hand on top of the glans and let your fingers slide down the shaft to the tip, as if you were gently removing a tissue.

Depending on the size of your penis, you can also very well reproduce some of these movements using only your thumb and index finger 👌.

Find the right rhythm

How do you know how fast to go? Ask your partner, of course! Otherwise, start slowly: it's always easier to say, "Oh yeah, keep going!" than "Hmm, it's starting to burn." Plus, starting slowly can build excitement and prolong the pleasure.

In practice: Start with slow, long strokes. Depending on the technique you choose, you may want to keep this pace (for example, for a twisting move). Otherwise, when you feel the person approaching orgasm, speed up the pace and keep it up until they explode, or slow down a bit if you want to make them wait before giving them fireworks. ✨

Pay special attention to the brake

The frenulum is that small strip of skin that connects the glans to the rest of the penis and that looks a bit like a thread. For many, it is the most sensitive area of ​​the penis. A bit like a male clitoris. So we suggest you don't forget it when you caress!

In practice: When trying the movements mentioned above, make sure that your hand or thumb is well on the frenulum. When you feel that your partner is approaching orgasm, concentrate your efforts on this area by rubbing it quickly from top to bottom, without exerting too much pressure.

Don't forget the testicles

If the frenulum is the most sensitive part of the penis, the erogenous potential of the testicles should not be neglected. Be careful, this area should be stimulated gently: the testicles are particularly delicate!

In practice: Stroke the penis back and forth with one hand. With the other, gently take the testicles and massage them lightly as if you were checking if they were ripe. You can also simply hold them in your hands, roll them gently in your palms while tickling your partner's perineum with your index and middle fingers, or pull on them lightly.

Try Lingam massage

Lingam massage is a type of erotic massage inspired by tantra. The goal is not to achieve orgasm at all costs, but to savor the experience and sensations.

In practice : Create an atmosphere conducive to meditation: light a candle, put on soft music, dim the lights, burn your favorite incense, etc. Suggest to your partner to do breathing exercises, then start gently by massaging the surroundings of his penis, such as the inside of the thighs and the lower abdomen. Then, massage his penis with slow and gentle movements. Remember, it is completely normal for the latter not to be constantly erect. If you want to end with a happy ending , it is up to you! But know that with the lingam, we seek to reconnect with the sensations of the body and to become fully aware of them, not necessarily to reach orgasm.

Add a toy to the equation

At LEO PLAISIR , sensory and sensual exploration is our passion! Why not add a toy to your pleasures to explore new sensations with your partner?

In practice: Several options are available to you. You can place a cock ring at the base of your partner's penis or around his testicles to prolong his erection and delay his ejaculation. A masturbation sleeve can also offer new sensations. If this type of practice is on the menu, an anal plug can stimulate the nerve endings of the anus or tickle the prostate. And why not a vibrator to make his frenulum or perineum quiver?

Nothing prevents the toy from also being used to please YOU while you masturbate the other. 😉

Experiment with kinks

There's no accounting for taste, and it's essential to talk to your partner to find out what really turns them on. Do they have a particular fantasy? Why not incorporate it into your intimate caresses!

In practice : Depending on your partner's preferences, you could handcuff him/her to the bed, blindfold him/her, use a feather to tickle his/her crotch, stimulate him/her only over his/her underwear, wear your best latex outfit, embody a character and transform a caress into role play, or explore an unusual place for your intimate moments. Everything is possible within the limits of consent and the law!

Observe

When it comes to pleasuring yourself, you can never be better served than by yourself. Asking your partner to stimulate themselves in front of you can be a great way to discover the moves, rhythms, and little details that are sure to make them melt. That way, you can take inspiration from their technique and use it yourself later! 😏