Thinking about getting your first sex toy? Good news: you’re not alone! So many of us have a thousand questions before taking the plunge. No worries—this guide is here to walk you through it, step by step, with zero judgment and plenty of playfulness, so your first toy becomes your new best pleasure ally.
The essentials
Here’s what to keep in mind when shopping for your first sex toy:
- It’s a gift to better know your body and expand your pleasure.
- Start with something simple, small, and easy to use.
- Use lube: recommended for everyone, essential for penetration.
- A sex toy should never hurt: take your time and pick the right size.
- Budget: good toys start around $40–70, premium ranges from $100–200.
- The right toy is the one that matches your desires right now—and sometimes it takes a few tries to figure that out.
Why choose a sex toy when you’re just starting out?
Buying your first sex toy is so much more than just a purchase—it’s a real gift to yourself. It’s a chance to discover your body, explore sensations your hands alone can’t create, and intensify your pleasure whether you’re solo or with a partner. It’s also a great way to spice up your routine, expand your menu of caresses, and add a burst of excitement to your intimate moments. In short: a sex toy opens the door to more confidence, freedom, and pure enjoyment.
Which sex toy should you start with?
Don’t stress: you don’t need to go big or complicated right away. The idea is to start with something simple, gentle, and versatile—easy to use (think one-button controls) and small in size, especially if you’re curious about vaginal or anal insertion.
- To explore your clitoris: a small toy like the Flirt Mini Vibrator is perfect for beginners.
- For the G-spot: go for an ergonomic toy like the Hype G-Spot Vibrator—easy, accessible, and effective.
- For penises: a soft, textured masturbation sleeve such as the Puffy delivers unique sensations and is beginner-friendly.
- For couples: a vibrating cock ring like the Hug lets you share the vibes together.
How to use a sex toy for the first time
- Get comfortable, take your time.
- Add a little lube (we’ll come back to that in a sec).
- Start on low intensity and explore your body gently.
- Pay attention to your sensations—there’s no “right” or “wrong” way.
- Remember: sometimes it takes several tries to know if a toy really works for you. Give yourself time to get used to it.
Pro tip: try your toy on non-intimate zones like your neck or thighs to get comfortable with the sensations.
Do you need lube with a sex toy?
Not mandatory… but highly recommended! Lube makes everything smoother, softer, and can even add new sensations. For insertable toys, it’s often essential to avoid discomfort and let you relax into the experience. For your first toy, stick with a water-based lube like Eau La La—safe with all types of sex toys.
Does a sex toy hurt the first time?
No—if it does, something’s off. If you feel discomfort, slow down, breathe, change position, add more lube, or go for a smaller toy. Your body might need a bit of time to adjust to new sensations, and that’s perfectly normal. Remember: the right toy, used well, should invite you back for more, never turn you away.
What size should you choose for your first sex toy?
Less is more! No need to start with an XXL toy. Begin with something compact or medium-sized—easy to handle and reassuring for your first steps.
What budget should you plan for a first sex toy?
You can find a good toy starting around $40–70, which is perfect for testing the waters. Even better: at LEO, there are tons of options under $70 that don’t compromise on quality or sensation. If you’d rather invest in a premium experience, expect to spend between $100–200 for trusted brands like We-Vibe, Lelo, or Womanizer.
How do you know if a sex toy is right for you?
Golden rule: listen to your desire. If the thought of a toy makes you feel curious, excited, or gives you a little thrill of anticipation, that’s a good sign. Ask yourself simple questions: do you want external or internal stimulation? Something soft and progressive, or intense and surprising? Something discreet for solo play, or a playful accessory for shared moments?
Remember: there’s no “final choice.” Sometimes you need to test, adjust, and try more than one toy before finding the perfect match. Your first won’t necessarily be your forever favorite, but it will be your starting point for self-discovery and refining your desires.
Can I buy a sex toy without anyone knowing?
Yes! At LEO Plaisir, shipping is 100% discreet: no explicit labels, no giveaways—no one will ever know what’s inside.
Above all, listen to yourself
Choosing your first sex toy is about listening to your own desire and rhythm. A simple toy, a little lube, and a healthy dose of curiosity are all you need to open the door to new pleasures.
Ready to take the leap? Discover LEO Plaisir’s curated selection for beginners.